To Leave the Nest


What is the story you’re telling?

Wow, I missed blogging in February completely? Bad blogger!

I’ve had a lot to say but finding the time… well, that’s why I’ve have a lot to say.

Over the weekend I watched an interview with Life Coach Tony Robbins. I’ve never really read or heard much about Tony Robbins except to put him in the category of other motivational speakers. I enjoyed the interview for numerous reasons and took away this amazing story:

Steve Jobs was born out of wedlock and adopted by a loving family. When he was a small child, he was teased and picked on for being given up for adoption. He was “discarded”, or so that is what he was told. The news wrecked him and being teased about it brought this sensitive young man to tears.

Upon discovery of her child sad and broken, Steve’s adopted mother asked him what was wrong. After he explained his “story” to her, she smiled and reassured him that he wasn’t “discarded”… they CHOSE him.

Thus he went through the rest of his life feeling CHOSEN.

As a divorced single mother, it is easy for me to fall back upon the “brokenness” of my marriage and, perhaps, my life as it appears now to a society that values marriage as the most appropriate way to raise children. The truth of it is I AM divorced. My marriage ended. However the story I wish to place upon my life’s circumstances is a lot different than what the facts are.

Or as Tony Robbins says…

The facts of your biography may say one thing but YOUR STORY about it is up to you.

Categories:   divorce, inspirations


  • Posted: March 1, 2012 21:53

    Vicki Larson

    We can chose to focus on the negative (we all have it) or the positive (we all have that, too). It's good to look back to understand our sadness and losses and while they may have shaped us they do not define us. Nice to have you back, T.
    • Posted: June 15, 2012 19:30


      Agreed! My latest post is along these same lines. (And oy, it's been a while since I've written!)
  • Posted: May 28, 2012 00:24

    Mark Johnson

    Tonya, Can't believe I found your blog, but I thoroughly enjoy your style, your thoughts, and your life 'philosophy'. You may remember me, you sang in a band with me and my friend Joe years ago in Denton. I'd love to read some of your lyrics sometime. I've been writing music for a while now. Mark J. (
    • Posted: June 15, 2012 19:29


      I'm so amazed that you found my blog too! I'm excited to get together with you to make more music!